Intimacy at the Core of a Story

“Intimacy is the posture of one heart toward another. Intimacy chooses the path of self-disclosure above self-protection, vulnerability above guardedness, unhindered and expressed emotion rather than silenced feeling.”

This quote is from the book A Well-Worn Path: Thirty-One Daily Reflections for the Worshipping Heart by Dan Wilt. His words sparked my imagination and gives reason to why I make pictures – An intimate art form for those who are willing to bare their soul.

I’ve talked to a countless number of directors in my life and found that those who are truly into their craft speak from the depth of their hearts. They have something that ignites within their soul and surfaces when asked about what went into their film.

Last Sunday night I got together with other filmmakers at a friend’s house. Not only was the food great, but our conversation made the time fly by all too fast. Each person spoke from the depth of their heart and shared a vulnerability that gave us a desire to work on a project together. While project timing will determine if that desire is fulfilled, we plan to reconnect in the near future.

When each person shared about their most recent picture, we were bathed in an atmosphere of intimacy and respect. Our levels of experience didn’t matter, as the personal moments shared were endearing and educational. Everyone learned something of value from someone else.

There was no pretense in the room and each person added to the conversation. The only disappointment was how fast the five hours past.

And yes, we watched some footage. What filmmaker can get together with others and not share a few clips? I think it might be impossible, but I’m not sure.

The coolest part of the evening was listening to how each filmmaker poured their heart into their project in a way that it impacted the audience through story. To that end, the filmmaker had to make himself vulnerable, rather than guard his heart. He had to reveal his inner most beliefs instead of protecting his heart. And he had to reveal the emotional thread that runs through his veins in order to bring the story to life.

These same attributes are present in all stories shared around the water cooler at work and at an intimate dinner. Choosing to expose our hearts to others through story is one of the most powerful exchanges a person can make, as it reveals who we are and how we think. Intimacy is at the core of every story.

Copyright © 2014 by CJ Powers

Persuasion by Aristotle

Our generation knows Aristotle to be a man who understood the psyche and developed stories that would change the hearts of the audience. He not only studied the components that took an audience member down a path to enlightenment or wisdom, but also charted out the steps he used to prove his theories.

Aristotle suggested that there were three elements needed to persuade people to grasp and support an idea: the ethos, pathos and logos. Each element prepared the person to take in the information in a way that would compel their support to the point of owning the idea – Complete buy in.

I remember back to my days at Lucent Technologies. I was given the task of selling the Digital Deployment Network to Ameritech, AT&T and SBC. To close the $750MM deal I had to get buy-ins from about 200 people and found it took 3 years to accomplish.

Every time I got close to getting the CEO of one company to sign on the dotted line a merger happened that delayed the project. During that time Ameritech merged with AT&T, which later merged with SBC. The changes were significant and included a change in personnel. The only thing in my favor was that I already knew all the new decision makers from each of the original companies.

I was told that it was my experience with each of the previously merged companies, the story I told about developing continuity between disparate systems, and my perseverance that placed the final signature on the contract. I was amazed at how Aristotle’s three key persuasion factors played an important role in my success.

Here are the three elements explained in more detail.

Ethos

The ethos or the ethical appeal is about connecting with people by sharing values and experiences. The ethical appeal builds credibility and helps balance the emotional and logical portions of the persuasive message. It also causes the audience to respect the idea, regardless of their final decision to embrace it or not. In other words, it gives the presenter credibility.

Logos

The logos or logical appeal is about structuring the message in a way that makes sense and is easy to follow. With every statement made, there is supporting information that demonstrates or proves each point by appealing to the cerebral side of man. This appeal forces its originator to think through all aspects of the issue or story in order to present its rational in a logical progression.

Pathos

The pathos or the emotional appeal is about entertaining and addressing the emotional side of man through feelings of pain and pleasure. When done properly, the emotional argument will cause audiences to throw reason out the window and embrace the idea. Intuition and spontaneity play a large role in an emotional appeal and supply the risk factor to the individual’s decision. However, the pay off when the right outcome hits is far greater than decisions made without an emotional attachment, thereby justifying the risk.

Presenting both the logical and the emotional appeal seems almost contradicting or at least causes the audience to wonder if the two viewpoints might polarize the other. Henry M. Bottenger said, “Ignore emotion and reason slumbers; trigger emotion, and reason comes rushing to help.”

Our society has little value for reason in of itself, but when it’s coupled with the right emotion-based social message, reason gets a front seat.

Consideration is rarely given to topics that, while important, might bore its audience. However, coupled with a person’s experience and an emotional appeal, the message will get plenty of reflection.

An example of this is pro-life versus pro-choice. When the arguments started it was about pro-life versus abortion. The arguments were about killing or not killing babies. Then someone took Aristotle’s persuasive information and changed the argument to be about the mother’s body and therefore it being her right to choose.

The new argument presented a woman’s right to decide about having or not having a surgical procedure done on her body. Since all women should have a say in what happens to their body, there was no longer an argument about the unborn child – Making the pro-life message irrelevant.

The same thing happened to marriage versus gay marriage. It happened again with illegal drugs versus medical marijuana. And so on.

In every case one side used the Aristotle model of persuasion and the other side didn’t. Also, the key point of each argument was changed from the core important element to a side issue that most people would agree on – Like women having a say in what happens to their bodies (instead of their babies).

I study numerous motion pictures every year and find it amazing how many successful films use Aristotle’s model and how many unsuccessful films do not. When I take my studies a step further I find that the successful films impact our culture and the unsuccessful ones don’t.

With the surge of Christian, faith-based, and redemptive movies on the rise, its been fascinating to see that most redemptive films use the model and most Christian films do not. The faith-based films have a mixture of use, but most do not employ Aristotle’s model.

Many lying politicians use the model, while most truth-telling pastors that I’ve met do not. Teachers and sales people are split in terms of its use, which might explain the divide between successful and unsuccessful leaders. But as for me, I’ve seen the value of the model and understand why it works well for audiences of every kind.

It’s All About the Audience

The cinema and the local church have sought new ways of drawing people to its seats for years. When new media came along, marketers started to focus more on niche audiences. Magazines published various regional issues that focused advertisers on specific markets and technology took a deeper dive into personalized advertising.

Localized stories found a ground swell of audiences forcing some to go viral and large corporations shifted their attention to social media. Films like Minority Report gave us a glimpse into the future with electronic mall posters changing ads to reflect the likes of the person walking past, based on localized broadcasts of nearby mobile phone gps signals.

These innovations soon crossed over by creating a combination of partnerships, which make advertising all the more impactful. Here is a clip of a localized broadcast in a Hong Kong theater that makes a point about not texting while driving. The technology being used gives creative people an entire new way of introducing an audience to cinemas and churches.