The Story of Empathy: How Narratives Connect Us

It’s easy to assume that empathy is something we’re born with—or not. But in truth, empathy is often learned, and storytelling is one of the most effective teachers.

Stories allow us to live someone else’s experience, if only for a moment. They give us access to emotions we might not otherwise understand, and perspectives we might never have considered. Whether through a novel, a film, or a story told around a dinner table, narratives create a safe space where we can feel deeply, reflect personally, and begin to understand another’s reality.

My goal with the short film AI KNOWS is to help tweens consider information about AI versus wisdom that they will eventually have to face. Ideally, they need to address the topic with their family, who may or may not be able to speak to the relevant issues—the reason my film is an important conversation starter.

The Science of Stories

Neuroscientists have discovered that our brains activate when we hear a story in ways that mirror the storyteller’s experience. This phenomenon, known as neural coupling, helps explain why a good story can leave us feeling emotionally moved—it literally puts us in someone else’s shoes. In the case of my film, they will relate to a character who faces the circumstances to choose between AI and wisdom.

But storytelling does more than spark emotion. It builds bridges. When we hear about someone overcoming hardship, celebrating triumph, or navigating the complexities of life, we start to realize how much we have in common. The story’s specifics might differ, but the emotions underneath—fear, hope, joy, sorrow—are universal. These become the planks for the bridge we build to help others learn from mistakes not yet made.

The Mechanics of the Bonding Effect

When a person watches a main character do something cool, face something critical, or any other form of heightened emotion, the audience immediately relates the moment to their personal experience. While the circumstances won’t match, the moment’s emotions will be relatable. They form a bond with that character and must watch to see how their choices work out.

The bond starts with curiosity—a willingness to wonder about possibilities instead of jumping to conclusions. This desire to know opens the mind to consider things they might never have considered. We won’t be satisfied until the silent question bouncing around in our mind that we need answered by the main character’s choices gets revealed.

Why Film Transforms Tweens and Culture

Film offers a unique opportunity to shape how tweens interpret the world. At this pivotal age, they’re beginning to understand more profound truths, yet are still open to imaginative learning. A compelling story with powerful visuals and authentic emotion can unlock conversations that textbooks or lectures cannot.

In AI KNOWS, tweens meet characters navigating a future that could soon become their own. By watching others make hard decisions, face uncomfortable truths, and challenge the system, viewers develop empathy—and begin to imagine how they might handle similar dilemmas. The film doesn’t tell them what to think. Instead, it gives them something to think about.

When families watch together, those shared emotional moments become starting points for meaningful discussions. Parents don’t have to have all the answers—they just have to be present, willing to explore the story’s questions with their kids.

The Empathy We Need Next

The best part of empathy is that it’s an element of love. This form of love allows us to guide others without judging them. It empowers us to reflect back to them the golden nuggets of who they are, so they might see their own value.

Empathy isn’t built in the abstract. It’s built into the specifics. In the moments we lean in. In the details that reveal the heart. And in the courage it takes to tell, and to truly hear, someone else’s story.

Let us not underestimate the power of a narrative film or story. Because every time we tell a story—or listen to one—we take a step closer to understanding, connection, and the kind of empathy that can change everything.

Grow Your Empathy

Empathy begins in the pause—the moment we choose to engage, rather than dismiss. The next time you read a novel, watch a film, or hear someone share their story, lean in. Let their words stir your imagination. Let their experiences open your heart.

Ask yourself: What truth are they sharing? What emotions are they carrying? How might this moment shift how I see the world—or how I treat someone else?

If you’re with family, take the opportunity to ask questions. Explore what resonated with each person. Let the story serve as a springboard into real, honest dialogue.

You don’t need to be an expert to build empathy—you just need to be present, willing, and open to the story unfolding before you.

Copyright © 2025 by CJ Powers

Building Differential Strengths as Communicators, Networkers, and Team Players

Three key skills will define the most successful professionals in 2025: communication, connection, and collaboration. While these skills may seem fundamental, they have evolved into essential tools for navigating complex work environments, building relationships, and driving success.

To thrive in our dynamic world, we need to consider these skills from the perspective of the types of people who have built a strength while focusing on a single part of it: communicators, networkers, and team players.

The Strengths of Communicators, Networkers, and Team Players

Strengths are an intricate blend of innate talent, acquired knowledge, honed skills, an experiences gained from facing challenges. At the highest level, the finest communicators, networkers, and team players have mastered their craft, consistently refining their abilities through experience, learning, and mentorship.

Communicators

Communicators are the architects of understanding. They shape how information flows, ensuring clarity and engagement.

Talent: A communicator’s most essential talent is effectively conveying ideas—painting a picture everyone quickly understands. They possess natural eloquence and an innate understanding of tailoring messages to diverse audiences. They are also strategic thinkers, deliberate in crafting messages that resonate.

Knowledge and Skills: To excel, communicators master not only language and rhetoric but also the nuances of storytelling, persuasion, and emotional intelligence. They must be well-versed in the various communication channels, whether digital or in-person, and understand the role of technology in enhancing or hindering their message.

Experience: Effective communicators often learn through failures, such as missed opportunities, misunderstood messages, or poorly received content. These experiences teach them the importance of timing, tone, and context in their communication.

Craft: The highest level of communication strength involves predicting how messages will be received and adjusting them accordingly. This skill is often developed through mentorship, where communicators learn the delicate art of crafting persuasive, authentic, and clear messages that create lasting impact.

Networkers

Networkers are connectors who build and maintain relationships across diverse sectors, industries, and distances. They thrive on creating mutual value through connections that go beyond transactional needs.

Talent: Networkers excel at building rapport. Their key talent is empathy, which enables them to understand the needs and desires of others. They are naturally curious and possess an uncanny ability to make people feel heard and valued.

Knowledge and Skills: To be effective, networkers must develop a deep understanding of their industry and the industries they connect with. They should be proficient in reading people, understanding social dynamics, and maintaining professionalism while forming personal bonds. Networking skills also include strategic thinking, as successful networkers can leverage connections to create value for others.

Experience: A seasoned networker has made mistakes, such as misreading signals or overpromising. These experiences teach the importance of authenticity, follow-through, and timing in building long-lasting relationships.

Craft: The highest level of networking involves connecting people in ways that spark collaboration and innovation. Great networkers often learn this by working closely with mentors who teach them the subtleties of relationship management and help them build an extensive network of trusted contacts.

Team Players

Team players are the backbone of successful collaboration. They bring energy, enthusiasm, and support to group efforts, helping to turn individual contributions into collective achievements.

Talent: A team player’s innate talent lies in collaborating and contributing meaningfully in a dynamic group. They’re often skilled at fostering cooperation, managing conflict, and ensuring everyone’s voice is heard.

Knowledge and Skills: Team players must understand group dynamics, leadership principles, and how to manage conflict constructively. Their skills include active listening, giving and receiving feedback, and contributing to the group’s goals without seeking the spotlight.

Experience: Experienced team players have learned to navigate challenges like interpersonal conflicts, misunderstandings, or missed deadlines. They’ve gained wisdom from seeing how their actions, or lack thereof, affect the group’s success or failure.

Craft: The highest level of strength as a team player involves building a culture of collaboration that empowers others. Great team players learn this craft through direct experience, often observing and apprenticing with strong leaders who create environments of trust and mutual respect.

Why Communication, Connection, and Collaboration Matter in 2025

The rapid pace of change in 2025 means that traditional methods of working and leading are no longer enough. The ability to communicate clearly, connect with others meaningfully, and collaborate effectively will determine who thrives in an increasingly complex, interconnected, and fast-moving environment.

  • Communication enables individuals to express their ideas, needs, and feedback in a way that resonates with others. In an age of information overload, communicators who can cut through the noise and convey essential messages are highly valued. They clarify, simplify, and amplify their content to create the ideal message.
  • Connection is the key to building networks of trust and mutual benefit. In an increasingly remote and digital world, networkers who can forge and maintain strong relationships are the linchpins of personal and professional success. Their focus is to engage, relate, and build their relationships for the future.
  • Collaboration allows teams to achieve results greater than the sum of their parts. As organizations grow more cross-functional and global, team players who can work across diverse groups and bring people together will be crucial to achieving success. They focus on aligning, acting, and achieving goals as a team.

How to Develop Your Strengths as a Communicator, Networker, and Team Player

We must practice self-awareness and commit to continuous learning to build differential strengths in these areas. Start by identifying where your strengths lie and where there is room for growth.

  1. For communicators: Focus on refining your ability to adapt your message to different audiences and contexts. Practice active listening and learn to read nonverbal cues. Seek feedback on your communication style and aim to be more concise and impactful.
  2. For networkers: Invest in building genuine relationships rather than merely expanding your contact list. Be present, offer value, and seek to understand others’ goals and challenges. Build your personal brand through authenticity and integrity.
  3. For team players: Work on being adaptable in team settings. Focus on being supportive, cooperative, and solution-oriented. Learn to resolve conflicts constructively and encourage diverse perspectives in group discussions.

In 2025, the most successful professionals will excel as communicators, networkers, and team players. By recognizing the importance of each role and continuously refining the strengths associated with these key skills, individuals can thrive in an increasingly complex and fast-paced world. As you build your career or lead others, remember that true success lies in what you know and how well you connect, communicate, and collaborate with those around you.

Copyright © 2025 by CJ Powers

The Story of Empathy: How Narratives Connect Us

When my friend announced he was terminally ill, he guessed that he had 3-6 months left. To simplify sharing this story, let’s call him Frank. Not long after, I was asked to visit him in the hospital for a final goodbye.

I feel unsettled in hospitals. They are places where people seem to lose their freedom and, often, their lives. In some hospitals I’ve visited, the medical staff told patients they were their advocates but demanded strict obedience to every command.

As for the hospital Frank was in, I wasn’t there long enough to learn its disposition.

I walked into Frank’s room, where he was surrounded by people praying for him. He wasn’t conscious, so I considered leaving. A friendly pastor stepped beside me and gently shared that Frank had asked me to be present when he “transitioned to heaven.”

One praying woman paused as if listening to a spiritual cue and invited everyone to place their hand on Frank and pray for his transition. I wanted to run but lifted my hand toward him and froze. My eyes landed on his dried-out, bare feet poking out from the covers. His toenails were extraordinarily long and curled — a mangled mess.

Why hadn’t the doctor or nurse cut them? What about one of his friends? Would I have helped if he had asked?

I looked around the room and realized everyone knew Frank better than I did. They were deeply connected to him and fulfilled his final requests. I admired their passion and dedication to supporting him, yet I felt out of place. I had come to offer encouragement, but all I could truly offer was my presence. It was humbling, and I felt inadequate.

My mind wandered as I contemplated how the various personal connections in the room worked. As a storyteller who needs to connect with his audience, I wanted to determine what brought these unlikely friends together.

The most significant connection point I saw was a generous supply of empathy.

Empathy Based Connections

Empathy is an understanding that reaches beyond words, where you connect with emotions beyond your own experience. The various levels of empathy in the room were based on each of their stories with Frank.

But empathy isn’t merely an emotional response; it’s a neurochemical reaction.

Neuroscientist Paul Zak’s research shows that emotionally rich narratives release oxytocin, sometimes called the “empathy hormone.” This chemical reaction fosters trust, compassion, and even altruism — qualities that bring people together in powerful ways.

In his studies, Zak found that participants who engaged with powerful, emotional stories were more likely to donate time or money afterward. This demonstrates how story-driven empathy inspires action. When experienced deeply, empathy calls us to connect and care.

Story Transportation

As a storyteller, I’ve often considered the role of empathy in connecting with audiences. One fundamental storytelling principle is known as “transportation.” When a narrative draws in a listener, their mind becomes “transported” into the story, aligning with the storyteller’s emotions and perspectives. This neural coupling creates a shared experience, making it easier for the audience to feel the feelings as if they were their own.

Reflecting on my relationship with Frank, I remembered how he had confided in me during his divorce. We bonded over his struggles, and I offered him practical advice, drawing from my nine years co-leading a Divorce Care program. Together, we navigated the emotional terrain of recovery, with me sharing stories of resilience that he absorbed and later used to help others facing similar heartaches.

Storytelling is a bridge that allows us to share vulnerability and hope.

Narrative Medicine

In the hospital room, I saw narrative medicine in action. Studies from St. Jude Research indicate that when medical practitioners engage with patients through storytelling, they see beyond the symptoms and connect with the human experience of suffering and resilience. This approach, known as narrative medicine, creates a shared understanding that transforms clinical interactions. By sharing personal stories, caregivers and patients form bonds beyond clinical diagnoses.

Just as I had shared recovery stories with Frank during our talks, he had, in turn, shared his experiences with others, touching lives and fostering resilience. Storytelling wasn’t merely a tool for understanding; it became a way for him to build empathy and create meaningful connections, and the people in this room were examples.

As the prayer group’s voices grew louder, I was pulled back into the moment. Frank’s friends smiled and laughed, confident he was transitioning. I looked at him one last time, whispering quiet words of gratitude for his life and how he’d impacted others.

The Transition

Frank was propped up by pillows like someone reading a book in bed. He looked like he was watching his friends cheer him on.

Then Frank slumped, and the heart monitor flatlined. No alarms sounded; he had signed a “Do Not Resuscitate” form. His friends reached for their coats, chatting about what a wonderful person he was. I stood quietly, processing the moment as they walked down the hallway. Somehow, Frank wanted me present despite my limited role in his life.

Suddenly, Frank’s body moved as though leaning forward to look at me. Startled, I let out a loud gasp. The pastor quickly stepped beside me and explained that sometimes the body releases gases or twitches after death, causing unexpected movements.

He placed a reassuring hand on my shoulder, reminding me of the difference my presence made in Frank’s life. He encouraged me to continue sharing stories, for they had the power to heal and inspire.

As the nurses came to disconnect the medical equipment, I whispered, “Goodbye, my friend.” At that moment, my perspective on hospitals shifted. They no longer seemed like cold places governed by strict authority. Instead, they felt like spaces where loved ones had one final opportunity to express their care, remember a few stories, and share farewells.

The Timeless Practice of Storytelling

I realized that storytelling is a timeless practice with a profound purpose. It draws people together, creating shared moments of understanding that transcend individual experiences. Through storytelling, we build communities of listeners prepared to engage in compassionate action.

One of the greatest gifts my father gave me was the ability to share stories from the heart. I’ve seen how stories can touch the lives of others, leaving a lasting impact that continues through generations.

I encourage you to find opportunities to share your stories. Doing so will build enduring connections and create a legacy of empathy and compassion.

Copyright © 2024 by CJ Powers