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The Third Solution: Unlocking the Power of Unexplored Options

Have you ever run out of options, or so you thought, only to realize there were unexplored possibilities just beyond your perspective?

I remember a time during my marriage when we found ourselves in a stalemate over an important decision. We were both convinced that we were right, and it seemed like there was no way forward. It was in that moment of frustration that we discovered something important—each of us held just one small piece of the puzzle, a one-percent perspective that could lead us to a solution. It wasn’t much, but it was a start.

We made a commitment to each other that whenever we were at an impasse, we would set aside our need to be right and instead work together to find a third solution—or maybe even more. We decided to search out as many unexplored options as we could in a short period of time, allowing new insights to emerge that would help us move forward.

This simple decision became a powerful tool that transformed the way we approached disagreements.

What we learned along the way was that there were three essential steps to finding unbiased answers: communication, connection, and collaboration.

Communication: The Foundation of Understanding

The first step was communication. But it wasn’t just about talking—it was about truly listening to each other. We had to move beyond merely exchanging words and instead focus on understanding the deeper reasons behind each other’s perspectives. This kind of communication required patience, empathy, and a willingness to be vulnerable.

I remember one particular disagreement where I was convinced that my solution was the only viable option. It wasn’t until I paused and really listened to my partner that I began to understand the “why” behind their point of view. They weren’t just disagreeing for the sake of it; they had real concerns and motivations that I hadn’t fully appreciated. By listening without judgment, I was able to see things from their perspective, and suddenly, new possibilities emerged.

Communication became the cornerstone of our solution-seeking process. It created a space where we could share ideas openly, without fear of dismissal or criticism. By building a foundation of trust, we were able to move past our initial positions and explore options that we never would have considered on our own.

Connection: Bonding Through the Exploration Process

The next step was connection. As we communicated more effectively, we found ourselves growing closer. The process of exploring different perspectives wasn’t just about finding a solution—it was also about understanding each other on a deeper level. We began to see each other’s values, motivations, and desires more clearly, and this understanding brought us closer together.

I remember how, during one particularly difficult decision, we spent hours talking through different possibilities. It wasn’t easy, and there were moments when we both wanted to give up. But as we kept pushing forward, something unexpected happened—we began to feel more connected. The act of working together to find a solution became a bonding experience.

It wasn’t just about resolving the disagreement; it was about building a stronger relationship in the process.

This kind of connection can happen in any relationship, whether it’s with a partner, a friend, or a colleague. When you approach challenges with openness and a willingness to connect, you invite others into a meaningful partnership. The journey of finding unexplored options becomes an opportunity to foster trust, empathy, and genuine camaraderie.

Collaboration: Focusing on Each Other’s Needs

The final step was collaboration. True collaboration required us to set aside our personal biases and focus on each other’s needs. This was often the hardest part because it meant letting go of our own agendas and prioritizing the well-being of the other person. But when we did this—when we genuinely focused on giving each other the gift of seeing their needs met in the final decision—something amazing happened.

By prioritizing each other’s needs, we created a more balanced and empathetic approach to problem-solving. It wasn’t about winning or losing; it was about finding a solution that worked for both of us. This selfless focus prevented our biases from resurfacing and allowed us to work towards a mutually satisfying outcome.

I remember one discussion that gave us a spin. The more we focused on each other’s ideas, the more we realized our personal ideas were off the mark. We learned that when we collaborated with the intention of meeting each other’s needs, we unlocked creative solutions that neither of us could have come up with on our own.

One of the most powerful lessons we learned was that the best answers often didn’t look anything like our initial ideas. Our first choices were limited by our narrow perspectives, but by working together, we were able to discover unexplored options that were far better than anything we had considered before. It was a reminder that we could achieve far more together than we could alone.

Simple Steps—Hard Execution—Rewarding Solution

I don’t want to give the impression that this process was easy—it wasn’t. Both of us had to purpose in our hearts that we truly wanted the best for each other, even when it was difficult. There were times when we said we were willing to explore new possibilities, but deep down, we were still holding onto our own agendas. It was only when we were honest with ourselves and each other that we were able to move forward.

But when we did the work—when we communicated openly, connected deeply, and collaborated selflessly—we always ended up far happier with the results than we ever would have been with our original solutions.

The journey of exploring communication, connection, and collaboration is one that requires dedication and a genuine willingness to grow together. It’s about opening up to new ideas, valuing the needs of others, and working side by side to create solutions that elevate everyone involved.

When we approach challenges with this mindset, we not only find better answers—we build stronger relationships and discover the true power of partnership.

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How Thinkers Can Harmonize with Feelers

I’ll never forget popping in to visit a logical friend trying to meet a deadline. He had been up for 30 hours, with 10 hours to go and no viable solution. I asked him if I could help, and he erupted in laughter, too tired to respond tactfully.

I suggested that if he gave me a shot, the worst that could happen is that he’d still be where he was, and the best thing was he’d be working on a new solution. He appeased me and told me the goal, what he had done to date, and some critical elements.

Since I think very differently than most, I asked a couple of questions and then made a recommendation. He quickly tried my suggestion in his programming and had a working model minutes later. He was blown away at how many hours he spent using logical principles to find a technical solution, and then I walked in without the needed knowledge and gave him the base solution.

He had a polished program six hours later and turned it in with four hours to spare. To this day, he can’t figure out how his expertise and logical process couldn’t do in 30 hours what his unknowledgeable, intuitive friend did in 20 minutes.

But, he was grateful that our collaboration and synergy got the job done, and his client loved the solution.

Thinkers and Feelers

Every day, we face two types of decision-makers: Thinkers and Feelers. Unfortunately, most only communicate well with one of those groups while unintentionally diminishing the value of the other.

In my Signature Talk, “Cinematic Advantage: Creating Memorable Conversations and Presentations,” I share how to speak to both groups of people at the same time without alienating either. But today, I will share several strategies Thinkers can use to harmonize with Feelers.

First, you need to know that the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Thinkers (“T”), and Feelers (“F”) often form complementary partnerships, merging the realms of logical and emotional reasoning. They work well together when we focus on content appropriately.

However, melding these distinct thinking styles, especially in personal and professional environments, sometimes presents communication and mutual understanding hurdles. Below are several strategies Thinkers can employ to harmonize with the Feelers in their circle, fostering an atmosphere of compromise and teamwork while fostering a sense of joy.

1. Radiate Positivity: Non-Verbal Cues Matter

Feelers navigate using an emotional compass, highly receptive to verbal and non-verbal signals. Regardless of what is said, they will pick up on anyone filled with tension. Therefore, approaching sensitive discussions requires tranquility.

Mastering calmness through deep breathing exercises before sensitive conversations is crucial. Moreover, being mindful of our body language, from arm positioning to posture, can prevent conveying the wrong intent. When conversing with a Feeler on sensitive issues, these vital attributes require our focus.

2. Embrace Patience and Respect

Driven by empathy, Feelers prioritize others’ well-being, often at the expense of directness in their conversation. They tend to prioritize harmony over conflict, making honest emotional expression difficult.

Recognizing this, Thinkers should afford Feelers the latitude to articulate their thoughts fully despite circumstances. While Thinkers’ decisiveness is invaluable, appreciating diverse thought processes enhances interpersonal dynamics.

3. Foster a Culture of Honesty

Given Feelers’ aversion to upsetting the status quo, Thinkers should initiate spaces for candid dialogues, particularly regarding mutual expectations. Establishing a safe, welcoming environment that prioritizes transparent communication over diplomatic evasion encourages Feelers to voice their authentic thoughts, benefiting the collective in the long run. This will require Thinkers who want to benefit from the experience to maintain self-control and an open mind.

4. Prioritize Emotional Intelligence

While Thinkers instinctively seek pragmatic solutions, Feelers operate on an emotional frequency. Responding to Feelers’ concerns with stark logic can appear indifferent and will hinder productive conversation.

Striving to comprehend the emotions coloring their words, even without personally experiencing them, cultivates patience and fosters a climate where Feelers feel validated and inclined towards cooperation. They will become significant assets as they share the beneficial insights missed by Thinkers.

5. Identify Optimal Communication Channels

Understanding and aligning communication preferences is vital. For instance, while a Thinker might find text messages efficient, a Feeler could perceive them as detached, potentially triggering unwarranted concerns.

Transparency about communication styles and a willingness to adapt can mitigate misunderstandings and facilitate effective problem-solving. Also, remember that Feelers can read body language and overlook misspoken words, but not through texting.

6. Avoid Dismissing Their Emotions with Logic

Thinkers’ problem-solving prowess is commendable but not always appropriate when interacting with Feelers, who require emotional processing. Observing a Feeler dissect situations emotionally, though potentially perplexing, is akin to a Thinker’s logical evidence gathering.

Disregarding their methodology or displaying impatience can cause them to withdraw. Instead, offering empathetic support while they navigate their emotional journey is more constructive.

7. Validate Their Intuitive Strengths

Feelers, attuned to their emotions, often exhibit remarkable intuition. Their seemingly spontaneous logical conclusions stem from their deep emotional intelligence.

Discrediting this intuition can alienate them, whereas acknowledging its significance can ease collaborative efforts and enhance mutual trust. I’ve often found that most Feeler’s intuition is often more accurate than the short-term compiled data of Thinkers.

8. Provide Gentle Guidance

Balancing the relationship entails utilizing Thinkers’ logical prowess without overshadowing Feelers. Assisting them in navigating their emotional decision-making labyrinth by posing pertinent questions or refocusing their attention can be invaluable.

This synergy between Thinkers’ analytical abilities and Feelers’ emotional insights has transformative potential.

Embrace Openness

Effective communication with a Feeler doesn’t necessitate suppressing a Thinker’s inherent traits. Authenticity, coupled with a willingness to venture into emotional expressions, lays the foundation for profound connections.

This openness might involve Thinkers stepping out of their comfort zone, but in Feelers, this vulnerability is welcomed and reciprocated. As these personalities complement each other, a Feeler’s rationality can surface in response to a Thinker’s emotive side.

Through such heartfelt interactions, collaborative discussions thrive, enriching both parties.

Copyright © 2023 by CJ Powers

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A Director’s Take on Auditions

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Auditions are a critical aspect of the filmmaking process, and as a director, it’s essential to know what to look for in actors during these sessions. The audition process can be lengthy and challenging. Still, a director can find the perfect fit for their film by focusing on three key areas:

  • Observe the actor’s capabilities
  • Determine the actor’s chemistry with cast members
  • Ensure the actor can take direction and explore collaborative choices

Observing the Actor’s Capabilities

One of the most crucial things a director should look for in an audition is the actor’s capabilities. This involves examining the actor’s range, ability to convey emotions and portray characters accurately.

To assess these capabilities, directors can provide actors with monologues or scenes that challenge their acting skills. The scene can be a simple interaction between two people or involve more complex emotions and conflicts. The goal is to get the actor to play and interact in a manner that reveals their capable range.

During the audition, directors should look for the following traits in the actor’s performance:

  • Authenticity: Actors should be able to embody the character they are auditioning for and make it believable. They should be able to evoke the character’s emotions, mannerisms, and speech patterns to make the character come to life.
  • Versatility: The best actors have a deep range and can take on different roles and genres. Look for actors who can perform different emotions and characters with ease.
  • Presence: Actors should have a presence that commands attention. They should be able to captivate the audience with their performance and hold their attention.

Determine the Actor’s Chemistry with Cast Members

Chemistry between cast members is vital for a film’s success. Actors should be able to work well together, establish trust and rapport with one another, and create believable relationships on screen.

During auditions, directors can pair up actors and see how they interact with one another. Directors should look for actors who can create chemistry naturally and authentically. The result of strong chemistry appears in the form of challenging tension and natural acceptance.

The following are some factors to consider when evaluating chemistry:

  • Compatibility: Directors should look for actors who share similar energy and can complement each other’s performances.
  • Communication: Actors should be able to communicate well with each other and create a sense of camaraderie.
  • Adaptability: Actors should be able to adapt to each other’s acting styles and make changes to their performance if necessary.

Ensure the Actor can Take Direction and explore Collaborative Choices

Directors should look for actors willing to take direction and explore various solutions to a scene. During auditions, directors can provide actors with feedback and see how they respond to it. Actors who can take direction and make changes to their performance show they are open to collaboration and willing to work towards a shared vision for the film.

The following are some factors to consider when evaluating an actor’s ability to take direction:

  • Flexibility: Actors should be able to adjust their performance and adapt to the director’s vision.
  • Creativity: Actors who can explore different ways of performing a scene can offer new insights and ideas that enhance the overall film.
  • Collaborative Spirit: Actors open to feedback and working with others can create a positive and productive working environment on set.

The audition process is a crucial step in filmmaking, and directors should know what to look for in actors during this process. Observing an actor’s capabilities, determining the actor’s chemistry with cast members, and ensuring the actor can take direction and explore collaborative choices are all key factors in finding the right actor for a role. With these factors in mind, directors can make informed casting decisions that result in compelling and authentic performances that bring their film to life.

Copyright © 2023 by CJ Powers