Attended My Ex-Father-In-Law’s Funeral

© Argus - Fotolia.comNot once did I think that I’d be out of place attending the funeral of my ex-wife’s father. Nor did I receive anything but love, as I visited with the family after the funeral. In fact, it was a time filled with rich smiles and a lot of catching up on all of our lives.

I was 20-years-old when my dad died and I have few recollections prior to age six, which left me with about 14 years of memories. My ex-wife’s dad was like a surrogate father of sorts and our relationship lasted 25 years prior to the divorce with most of its memories intact.

My dad taught me about integrity, family, creativity, leadership, and how to serve and protect others. My father-in-law taught me integrity, family, business, and how to be second. I honored both men at their funerals and held dear to my heart the impact they each made in my life. Both men had richly blessed me.

While some might think it was odd for me to attend, I wasn’t the only ex who showed up at the funeral. No one denied the honor due my father-in-law regardless of how old the relationships were. He deserved every word of appreciation and the family was thankful for each comment and shared story.

The funeral opened with family participation. My youngest daughter shared a letter she wrote her grandfather, which was read to him before he passed. Her reading brought tears and smiles to many including me. I was very proud of the woman she’s become.

My ex-wife then shared a personal conversation with all in attendance. Her words were well chosen and painted a picture of hope that lifted the heaviness from the room. I was amazed and proud of how well she delivered her talk, which was filled with grace, diplomacy and compassion.

My son and oldest daughter both shared scriptures and a heart-warming song that stirred every soul in the room. They were clear, dynamic and articulate with each reading and their musical prowess obvious to all. I had hoped that they would continue for another hour or two, but their blessing came to an end as the service continued.

During the long ride home, I wondered how many divorces stopped others from saying goodbye to loved ones. As I crossed back into my state, my heart filled with gladness that the divorce hadn’t defined our family. Everyone had viewed the divorce as just one moment in time – one painful event.

It’s been more than ten years since the divorce was finalized and while it changed our circumstances, it didn’t make us bitter.

It shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone that after the funeral I shook the hand of my ex-wife’s husband as we exchanged genuine smiles and started to catch up on each other’s life. Nor should anyone be startled when I told my ex-wife that I was proud of her for giving such an excellent talk.

Divorce is not like death, although many say that it is. Sure, to some extent we can talk about the death of the marriage, but the person is still a part of your life afterwards. We share time with the kids, participate in special family events, and spend time with our grandkids. We also both believe in integrity, family, and all the other great things that our family stands for.

The core essence of who we are never changed, so showing up to my ex-father-in-law’s funeral was natural. And, together we all said goodbye to a man that deserved the honor. After all, he made a lasting impact in everyone of us and we were all more than happy to say thank you.

Supporting Your Why

WhyStrong leaders know that passion motivates their team and produces high returns on their products/services. This passion is the heart of the company or the reason why the company does what it does. It’s the one filter that everything being worked must be analyzed through.

I recently reviewed a film script that was being produced by an Atheist and a Christian. I found it fascinating that they set their religious differences to the side in order to make a great story. I was also eager to see how the film turned out due to the diverse passions they brought to the table.

However, the screenplay had some major flaws in it. I asked both men how they’d deal with the hole in the plot and they both instinctively knew how the story needed to end, but couldn’t understand how to get there. So I asked if they’d like my input and they agreed.

I asked one question: Why are you making THIS story?

They both answered in almost perfect unison, “To show the audience that people can change with every choice they make including the decision to show a weaker person kindness.”

Here is how I responded…

If a person is going to change, it needs to be the protagonist. (Although other characters can also change.) Therefore ACT 1 must show the unchanged protagonist in his normal flawed life. In ACT 2A, the protagonist must be introduced to the possibility of change or at least the contrast between his current life and his possible life. In ACT 2B, the protagonist must battle through his internal and external obstacles to overcome whom he is to give room for who he can become. In ACT 3, he must look at his flaw from a new perspective and turn it into the thing that catapults him through the change into his new life.

The restructuring of their story based on their agreed “why” drove a dynamic rewrite that made the story award worthy. It also drove their shared passion into the story itself. The rewrite was simple when they filtered every thing through their powerful why.

In the independent filmmaking business, the number one thing that kills great stories is when the writer loses track of the why. Writers are naturally drawn down interesting rabbit holes that take the story in a significantly different direction. The only way to stay true to the story is to understand why you’re writing it to begin with.

When I created Tried & True with Guy Cote and Anthony DeRosa, I started the story with the following why: To help people realize they are trapped in a comfortable, false freedom and need to break free to experience a true adventurous freedom that is available to all who seek it.

Unfortunately we didn’t use the why as a filter during the writing process and ended up having a different story with each draft. Each version would make a great film, but there would only be one version that matched our passion – The one we had neglected to write. It became clear that one more run at a rewrite was necessary to birth the version that we could all passionately get behind.

Filtering everything through your why will keep you focused and headed in the direction you originally intended. Everyone has a why to follow, whether in business, among family, or in creative endeavors. And, everyone can shine brightly in a profound way that the world needs when their life’s output reflects their why.

Copyright © 2015 by CJ Powers

6 Critical Steps of Filmmaking Business Revealed

The fact that filmmaking is both an art and a science rarely eludes those in the industry. Unfortunately, the critical element that escapes the attention of most is the actual business of filmmaking. Actors like Meryl Streep, Robert Downey Jr., and Sandra Bullock were able to rise to the top and find sustainability in their craft because of their business acumen.

Producers, directors, production designers, and even grips, gaffers and best boys all must understand the basics of business to survive. Most have learned that 80% of their work comes from their previous project, while the remaining 20% comes from networking during breaks, hiatus and down time.

In the film and television industry every person is a branded product/service. Some are stronger brands than others, but all are brands even if by a default setting based on ones personality and work ethic. Those who understand that their brand must produce like a corporate product; the business of filmmaking can become profitable.

I’ve found that everyone in film and television can become profitable when they properly execute the 6 critical steps in the filmmaking business.

1. Set a Goal: Picking one specific end-point or achievement for the year is better than setting two or three weaker goals. The goal must be achievable, clear and the object of your ambition with obvious benefits. It can be put into a clear goal statement for the purpose of focus and must suggest some form of measurement that reveals when the destination was met or accomplished. It can also be a multi-year goal, but profitable businesses require at least one goal per year to maintain sound business practices.

SAMPLE 1: Actor Ms. Royale, set a goal to star in a feature film within three years.

SAMPLE 2: Actor Ms. Poplar, set a goal to obtain 1,000 fans.

2. Establish Measurable Objectives: All good goals can be measured in multiple ways. To fulfill the goal, objectives must be set that assesses all the important ways the goal can be measured. Most goals produce 1-3 measureable objectives.

SAMPLE 1: Actor Ms. Royale, set the following objectives:
A). Star in a short film that is submitted to 40 award festivals.
B). Win a Best Actor award for her role in the short film.
C). Send publicity about award to 100 feature casting directors, producers, and directors.

SAMPLE 2: Actor Ms. Poplar, set the following objectives:
A). Develop relationships with 50 arts and entertainment news editors.
B). Hire a publicist to create 12 newsworthy press releases.
C). Create a fan page and fill it with 3 posts per week.

3. Assess S.W.O.T.: Once the direction is set and its clear how to measure the results, the most important thing is conducting a true assessment of your strengths and weaknesses, and doing the same for the competition. Since the competitive information is being assessed from your viewpoint, it’s important to label the competition’s strengths as threats, and their weaknesses as opportunities. It’s also important that all S.W.O.T. inputs be truthful for the sake of developing powerful strategies.

SAMPLE 1: Actor Ms. Royale, drafted the following assessment:
STRENGTH: Years of modeling, commercial and television experience.
WEAKNESS: Not known among the film community and never tracked fans.
OPPORTUNITY: Can easily win head to head talent competition against Ms. Poplar.
THREAT: Politics within existing networks might block her entry.

SAMPLE 2: Actor Ms. Poplar, set the following assessment:
STRENGTH: Standout attractiveness, charismatic personality, well networked and had role in a highly visible film.
WEAKNESS: Is a beginning actor with little instruction.
OPPORTUNITY: Can use politics and a large fan base to help promote ticket sales and block Ms. Royale from acquiring roles.
THREAT: Once she learns how to network, Ms. Royale’s experience might overshadow or dominate in the market.

4. Develop Strategies: Up to this point our competitive information comes from intuition, observation and market conditions. Tying the information to our S.W.O.T. and by using the ability within our network, fan base or entourage forms the development of our strategies. All great strategies are specific and tied directly to one objective.

SAMPLE 1: Actor Ms. Royale, created the following strategies for the objective of starring in a short film submitted to awards:
A). Network with award winning writer/director to create an award winning short film.
B). Network with cast and crew to pull together a high quality low budget short.
C). Raise funds to cover festival submissions.

SAMPLE 2: Actor Ms. Poplar, created the following strategies for the objective of developing relationships with A&E news editors:
A). Hire a publicist to create press releases.
B). Offer “exclusive” interviews laced with name-dropping.
C). Develop campaigns to co-promote the editors and their rags.

5. Create an Implementable Action Plan: Every specific strategy will have a minimum of one action plan. Larger and more comprehensive strategies may require additional action plans to clarify achievements in various markets or channels. The action plan is developed to the level of including all resources, timetables, and activity punch lists necessary to accomplish the task. The more critical or the larger the strategy, the more action plans are required to meet the overarching objective measurements.

SAMPLE 1: Actor Ms. Royale, created the following action plan to fulfill the strategy of networking with an award winning writer/director to create an award winning short film:

The action plan included:
A). Names and contact info of award winning writer/directors.
B). Specific dates and times to contact each writer/director.
C). Questions to ask the writer/director.
D). A drafted working arrangement or deal memo.
E). An outline of emotions needing to be exhibited by the main character.
F). Notes taken to determine best person for project.

SAMPLE 2: Actor Ms. Poplar, created the following action plan for the strategy of hiring a publicist to create press releases:

The action plan included:
A). Names and contact info of recommended publicists.
B). Specific dates and times to contact each publicist.
C). Questions to ask the publicist.
D). A drafted working arrangement or deal memo.
E). An outline of promotional ideas or angles on stories to discuss.
F). Notes taken to determine best person for project.

6. Evaluate Your Performance Regularly: Schedules and objectives can’t be met without some form of evaluating the effectiveness of the plan and any related market changes requiring adaptability. These assessments must be honest and suggest plan B’s and market counter measures when needed. The evaluations are more than just a postmortem, as they must engage ideas for improving and advancing the strategies.

SAMPLE 1: Actor Ms. Royale, evaluated the following activities from her action plan:

A). The successful selection of an award winning writer/director.
B). The brainstormed story concept and its match to the emotions needing to be exhibited by the main character.
C). The establishment of a writing schedule for the first draft.
D). The review of the next action plan, its timetable and required resources.

SAMPLE 2: Actor Ms. Poplar, evaluated the following activities from her action plan:

A). The hiring of the publicists.
B). The brainstormed outline of press releases for the first quarter.
C). The development of a new action plan to generate photos for the press releases.
D). The discussed style of the writing.

The key to the business of filmmaking is to make sure each step does what its supposed to do.

Goal – Set the direction and vision for the general accomplishment.
Objective – Turn the goal into something measurable so the work process is functional and operational.
S.W.O.T. – Understand the true facts about the brand, competitor and market to facilitate working strategies.
Strategies – Programs or initiatives that direct and influence specific tactical actions.
Action Plans – The blue print of daily tactical activities including dates/times, resources, and other detail necessary to execute strategy.
Evaluation – The documenting of the outcome for postmortem discussions and expedient adjustments.

Those who are able to put these elements in writing, perform the work, and analyze the effectiveness of each step are the ones who will dominate the industry within a short time frame. People and businesses come and go in the film and television industry, but those who stay are successful because they understand the business.

Copyright © 2015 by CJ Powers